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Lessons I’ve Learned Being the Wife of Someone with ADHD
When I started dating my now-husband, I had no idea what living a life with someone who has ADHD was like.
It’s been over 7 years that we’ve been together and these are the most important lessons I’ve learned. These are the lessons that made me a better wife, and honestly, a better human being.
I first want to acknowledge that I am not a doctor and this does not serve as any kind of medical advice. Everyone who has ADHD deals with it in their own way, and so does their partner.
There were things that I noticed that were starting to affect our relationship and I needed to figure out how I could show up as a good partner, and work with his ADHD.
Practicing patience
Oh boy, was this a pretty big one to learn. I am already a pretty patient person by nature, but when you’re “adulting” and have chores to do, patience is especially important.
Pretty early on in the relationship, I noticed things I asked to get done weren’t getting done. Well, they were, but just not on my schedule. I wanted them done at a certain time, but he had other plans. It’s not that he had other things that conflicted with my schedule and when I wanted things done, but it seemed like his helping me wasn’t a priority.
